The Art of Active Listening
An Attitude of the Heart
by Megan Burdolski, Director of
Stewardship
“Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine
desire to be with another which both attracts and heals.” - L. J. Isham
Listening well is a
talent that not all of us possess. I think about those people I’ve known in my
life that have perfected the art of listening and I am genuinely inspired by
the way in which they make someone feel heard . . . important . . . relevant .
. . loved.
Listening takes practice.
I know that I am a better listener now than I was thirty years ago but I am
still not as accomplished in this skill as I’d like to be. Listening requires
attentiveness, patience, empathy and a willingness understand, among other
things. Jesus was a wonderful listener, an active listener. I found this
acrostic of the word LISTEN online describing some of the key elements of
active listening as modeled by Jesus:
L – Love – Jesus listened
without prejudice. Love must form the way we listen.
I – Inquire – Jesus often asked people questions which is the sign of someone
truly listening.
S – Stop – Jesus took time to stop and listen even when he was on his way
somewhere.
T – Test – Jesus was patient to test the waters waiting for a person’s readiness
to speak.
E – Engage – Jesus stayed in the moment, attentive to the person with whom he
was speaking.
N – Nudge – Jesus knew the value of listening and nudged others to also listen.
(Source: Ministry Tools Resource
Center)
As stewards and disciples
of Jesus, we must strive to be better listeners. We need to really hear what
others are saying to us in order to respond in a way that illustrates our care
and concern. Today, more than ever, voices need to be heard and we need to hear
them.
Just this week, I have
heard a wide array of thoughts and opinions about the Covid-19 pandemic, racial
tensions in our country and every other concern facing our society from family
and friends in my circle. I believe that if we identify as followers of Jesus,
what is most important is that we truly hear what others are saying. We should
endeavor to respond in a way that will not embarrass, disregard or show hatred
toward another human being. In times like these, it is most critical that we
really listen to others and strive to understand their point of view.
In James 1:19, we read “Know this, my dear brothers: everyone
should be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath . . .” These words
will help me remember the active listener that Jesus was and that I desire to
be.
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